That’s an interesting question. There are things we absolutely can do. We can go to class. We can practice our t’ai chi, our aikido, our escrima, and our qi gong. We can meditate. Those just a few of the things we can do. But maybe those activities are vehicles, just like our car is a vehicle to get us to work, to class, to the grocery store. The car doesn’t do the work, participate in class or feed us. But it’s a necessary vehicle.
The work of self improvement might be just like that analogy of the car. We use vehicles of meditation, martial arts practice, and self reflection, and the improvement just happens along the way, usually when we aren’t paying attention. We wake up one day and we’re different.
How did it happen? Maybe one day along the way we ceased the TRYING part. Instead striving & trying, we started to just be there – in class, at work, in meditation, in our family. At some point, we just started enjoying these activities and found they made life better. And maybe made US better.
That’s my theory of how self-iimprovement practices work. Feel free to share yours!